Great Tips That Will Prevent The Bed Bugs From Biting

The last thing anyone wants when they go to bed is to share that bed with a four-legged visitor. The very idea of sleeping in a bed infested with bed bugs is enough to send shivers down your spine. But, that nightmare is a reality for some people. Bed bugs are hard to keep away because they can transfer from one location to another in the blink of an eye. Plus, they are small and hard to tell they are even there. Here are a few tips that will stop them from being a health hazard.
Inspect Your Hotel Room

Although you may not have them at home, you may come across them in another location. The most common is a hotel room. Hotels are places where strangers from around the world come to stay, so the odds are bringing something is high. The result is that they may leave a nasty little critter waiting for you on your hotel bed. All you have to do then is go home and, voila, your home is infected. To negate this, take a good look at the mattress before you lie down. You are looking for the bugs themselves or for brown spots as they are a tell-tale sign they are around.

 Don’t Bring Them Home

If you do wake up with bites on your body, you need to think carefully about your next move. The last thing you want to do is take them home with you, so you need a contingency plan. The best thing to do is to unpack your suitcase outside of your home when you arrive back. Bunch all of the clothes together and wash them at a high temperature. The heat is a brilliant way to kill off bugs because their bodies can’t stand the temperature. Finally, disinfect your suitcase to kill off any bugs that may still be around. For more information on bed bugs, follow the link.

Bed Bugs Or Mosquitoes?

Although you may think you have bed bugs, it could just as easily be mosquitos. After all, mosquitos feed on blood and leave bite marks. You don’t want to overreact and call in the exterminator if there is no need, but you also don’t want to miss the warning signs. To tell them apart, look for the subtle signs. Bed bugs, for example, tend to leave clusters of bites in the same area as there are more of them. Also, they tend to occur where the body is uncovered. Mosquitoes have long, sharp noses that can pierce clothing, so they don’t need to concentrate on the exposed areas.

When To Call The Pros?

There may come a point where you want to call the exterminator because you feel that is your only move. The question is not to call the exterminator, but when to call him? You want to be proactive and do it as soon as you seen the signs. Otherwise, it may be too late.

Hopefully, you don’t have to deal with bed bugs. If you do, these tips will come in handy

Let’s Talk Teeth

Anyone that knows me knows that I am *slightly* obsessed with all things dental related. It works out well for me considering I currently work in the dental field. But yea… implants, crowns, extractions, bridge work, baby teeth … I love it all.

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Most people feel the complete opposite way that I do. They hate the dentist. And I don’t really blame them. Many people only go to the dentist when they are in need of emergency care — so they are in pain, and tend to need more extensive work done to fix the problem. Often, this could have been prevented if they had been coming in regularly for check ups. But as they say – hind sight, you know?

For those of you that may be a bit squeamish about coming to the dentist, here is some information that will hopefully make taking that first step a little bit easier.

Preventative care is one of the best things that you can do for yourself. Yes — your initial visit might be a little stressful, and it always is to hear that you have work that needs to be done, but honestly, the hardest part about your first visit is just showing up. It will mostly be just having x-rays taken and talking to the doctor about how to get your mouth in tip top shape.

Your dentist really wants to tell you that all you need is a cleaning. We like it when you come back in for your 6 month check up and don’t have any cavity or tooth pain or tooth related problems that you are worrying about.

Us dental assistants — we really want to help you. I never have a problem explaining procedures to patients, or even holding their hands throughout the procedure if they are nervous. I will always do my best to smile and reassure you, and I will make to sure to let the doctor know if you are nervous about anything. But I can’t help you to my full ability if you don’t ask questions and if you don’t let me know that you’re scared! I’m not just there to help the doctor, but also to make sure you have the best experience possible. So talk to me! I promise — we really do want to be there for you.

With all of that being said, I know that it’s still tough for many people to go to the dentist. Finding just the right office is key to having the best experience that you possibly can. There are so many dental offices out there, that I promise there is the perfect doctor for everyone 🙂

For those of you in the Virginia area, check out the Dental Associates of Northern Virginia.

And for anyone that has any dental questions, leave me a comment and I’d be happy to answer them as best I can. Honestly — I love talkin’ teeth!

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What’s New in the World of Self Care

The new year has only just begun, yet already enthusiasm for those New Year’s resolutions is starting to wane. It’s time to take a closer look at some of the technologies that can help you keep those promises we made to ourselves. More importantly, something new, even if it is just a gym membership, will invigorate our excitement and strengthen our resolve long enough for us to form a few good and lasting habits.

From feeling great to looking great, here are a few items to help you get there:

Looking Good

Like other animals, our skin is subject to wrinkles. Unlike other animals, we can do something about it. Furthermore, it is not mere vanity. Skin is an organ, the biggest in the human body. As such, skin care is health care. Premature, or excessive wrinkling is just one of the things that can keep us from looking our best. Fortunately, it is also something we can address.

Clarafuse dermapads headline the key technologies in a product called Dermaclara. If you are wondering what is Dermaclara Youth Science doing for wrinkles, here it is in their own words:

These surgical grade pads, infused with nutrients, peptides and other anti-aging ingredients, gently adhere to your skin for anywhere from one to 12 hours. During that time, they deliver a proprietary blend of ingredients to lessen the appearance of lines, wrinkles and hyperpigmentation.

No product can roll back the clock. Aging is a one-way process. What this technology provides is the ability to fight the appearance of aging. For any number of reasons, that is a fight worth engaging.

Eating Better

Whatever you do, don’t call it a diet. That is the kiss of death for any plan to improve your eating habits. Instead, call it improving your eating habits. Prevention lists seven ways you can use tech to make that happen. All of the ideas were good. The most beneficial of the suggestions might also be the easiest to implement. Number seven is take a picture of your plate.

They cite Kaiser Permanente Center for Health Research as saying, “Keep a daily log of what you eat, and you’ll lose twice as much weight.” A photo log is a simpler and more visceral reminder of what we’ve eaten than text descriptions. We also know a lot about what a healthy plate of food looks like. By taking a picture of what we are about to eat, it will have an immediate effect on our choices. Looking better and eating better are just ends to a means. The means is getting healthier.

Getting Healthier

They call them vital signs for a reason. You can’t live very well or long when they are out of balance. Body temperature, pulse rate, and rate of breathing should be monitored from time to time. There are other factors like blood pressure, blood sugar, and body weight that should probably be monitored even more. They can provide early warning that something is off.

Health monitoring and fitness tracking are the focuses of modern smart watches and fitness bands. It doesn’t really matter which of them is the best. They will all do the job of helping you monitor the metrics that matter to you. And just by the act of monitoring, you will be motivated to do something about it. You can also purchase blood pressure and glucose monitors that send the readings directly to your smartphone for better tracking.

There has never been a more exciting time for self care. It is not about firing the doctor. It is about taking a more active roll in your own health care and disease prevention. Protect your skin by slowing the effects of aging. Eat better. And take the guesswork out of it by quantifying your health. You don’t have to go it alone. A thousand tech companies are standing by with a million products to assist you.

Encourage Your Kids To Learn At Home

I’ve been thinking lately about education. In particular, I’ve been wondering whether my children get enough of it at school. I know what you’re thinking. Of course they do! That’s why they go there every working day. Ah, but what about at the weekends or even on holidays. We’re not that far away from spring break, and school is often completely forgotten during that time. This is a bigger issue than you might realize because the world is becoming more competitive. To get in college, kids have to excel through their entire school career. It only seems natural then to think about how we can help them along. With that in mind, here are some of the ways you can help your children learn in the comfort of their home.

TV, Internet And Games

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Again, I see your thoughts. There is nothing on that list that is even remotely educational. But don’t be too sure. Let’s start with TV. I know you probably find your TV is filled with endless channels of nothing but rubbish. However, if you get one of the time warner cable TV packages there are channels for children included. These aren’t just nonsense channels like Nickelodeon or Disney either. There are cable channels that provide educational topics for children eager to learn. When they’re young, it’s easy to get them to sit in front of a TV and watch whatever is on. Why not make the most of this opportunity?

Or, how about the internet. The internet gets a bad rep in the media in relation to children. Some parents wonder whether we should let kids use the internet at all. Well first of all the world is forever connected now. Internet usage is just a part of life. One that you certainly need to get used to, and it’s good to teach your children about it before they discover it for themselves. Secondly, the internet is full of educational sites that could boost your child’s learning and give them new skills.

Lastly, you should let your children play video games every so often. Video games have been linked to helping children develop problem solving skills as well as hand eye coordination.

Learning By Doing

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Another option is to help your children by letting them learn from you. Depending on a child’s age there are lots of things they can learn around the house. For instance, if you show older children how to balance the bank account they can learn maths skills. They can also learn lessons that will be useful in later life. For younger children you may want to teach them culinary skills. Not only is this is life skill but it could translate into a full career one day. You’ll never know whether you have the next head chef in your household unless you give them a shot.

Alternatively, you may simply want to encourage your children to learn at home in their own way. This may be choosing a new book to read once a week or keeping a diary when they go on holiday. Both of these ideas well help your child develop literacy skills.

I hope you see now how much your child can learn at home and why it’s important to encourage this.

Maintaining Your Child’s Innocence in a Challenging World

In modern times, our children are often exposed to negativity through a variety of media sources. From the things they watch on television to information available on the World Wide Web, the once large world has become a lot smaller. With the average child spending a total of 16 hours or more in front of a screen (television, mobile device, or computer), the need for parents to step up and monitor their usage is imperative.

The idea of monitoring your child’s screen time was once a non-issue. Family oriented networks were geared towards sending positive messages with valuable lessons. However, as the interests of the general population evolve, media outlets oblige by providing violent, sexually heightened, drama filled content.

From the graphic scenes in the news of the latest ISIS attack on Paris to the overly sexualized music videos, the media arguably paints a picture that sex, violence, and negativity are the new norm, and it can greatly impact the well-being of your children.

So how can a concerned parent help to shield their children from the cruel realities of life? Though it may seem impossible with all the media sources and means to access them, there are things you can do to ensure your children are not constantly absorbing negativity.

Television

Let’s first start with the television. The average child can spend as much as four hours per day in front of the television screen. During this period of time a child could easily be exposed to so much you don’t want them to see. As parents, you can do a lot to minimize the amount of negativity your child sees by doing the following:

·  Parental Controls. A parent’s first line of defense would be to utilize parental control features. Television providers such as DirecTV in Long Beach and other qualifying cities offer easy to use parental control options. Based on the rating system for television shows, parents can determine which ratings are safe for their children to watch and which ones aren’t. For example, a parent with a 10 year old might want to block their child from watching things that are TV14 and TVMA.

·  Educate Yourself. Another way to stay on top of the information that your child sees on television is to educate yourself. By knowing which shows they watch and the type of content the shows display, you can determine whether the program is a negative of positive influence.

·  Set Limits. Limiting the amount of television your children watch each day can ultimately minimize the amount of negativity they’re exposed to. As most parents are aware, more violent and sexually explicit television content typically comes on later in the day, so setting a cutoff time for the kids of about 8 or 9 pm would suffice.

·  Talk to your kids. Communication between parents and their children is extremely important. With a mega influencer such as the media constantly sending the wrong message to your children, it is important that you are there to provide explanations about the realities of life. Having conversations about hot topics or popular shows your children watch can prevent them from misinterpreting information or accepting negativity as the norm.

The Internet

The internet is another media source with a plethora of negative information floating around. Your child could simply type in a term and thousands of search results could lead them to access information that they shouldn’t. While the internet is commonly used for school projects, online gaming and other things that children commonly access, it is important to monitor their usage.

·  Educate Your Children. Education is always important when it comes to internet usage. There are so many negative messages and threats out there that you need to ensure that your child understands the importance of being safe and mindful of the things they access. Talk to your children about appropriate internet use such as knowing which websites they can access, what things should or should not be discussed online and so on.

·  Keep Computer in Public Area. If your child has a computer in their room you may want to rethink that. They can easily be accessing negative content without your knowledge. Keeping the computer out in an open place minimizes the likelihood that they’ll search for inappropriate things. Use of mobile devices like cell phones and tablets should also be limited to public areas as children can easily access the web from those sources.

·  Web Filters. Much like parental controls, web filters are programs that will filter the types of web pages your children are allowed to access. The software is designed to screen the site’s source and compare it to the settings/guidelines you’ve set forth upon installation. If the site is safe, they allow access, however, if the site goes against the rules, access will be restricted.

Naturally, you want to do your best to protect your children from all the negativity in the world today. Though you may not be able to cover every media source at all times, having safeguards in place like parental controls and web filters, and initiating frequent communication can minimize the potential of your child accessing information that is simply inappropriate. Proactive parenting in monitoring and addressing media issues can ultimately help your children develop positive values and habits when it comes to using technology.

How a Boat Can Build Families

Things happen in families that can tear relationships apart. When this happens, family life can be difficult, becoming an emotional roller-coast ride and a sullen war of conflicting interests. While family therapy can certainly heal emotional wounds and renegotiate boundaries, sometimes a family just needs to do something together to feel like a family again.

One way to pull off this miracle is through boating. Getting a boat is a great idea because boating is one way a family can spend quality time together.

Boating with your spouse and kids can foster deeper relationships, make fun memories and let you pass down knowledge through the generations. Once your kids learn how to handle all the work on board, you will have a common activity that can last a lifetime. A love for boating and heading out into the wide open waters is something you can share with your kids even when they are all grown up.

Types of Boats

When it comes to buying a boat, there is an armada of choices. Financing a boat is also much easier than financing a car. This is because lenders are willing to offer long-term financing since boat owners, unlike car owners, are usually not interested in trading in their boat for the latest model. They fall in love with boats and keep them for a long time. Boating is not something only the rich and famous can afford. How much you spend depends on the brand, model, and size of the boat you choose to purchase.

Begin by researching the types of boats available for a small family.

The Short List

To give you an idea of just how many types of boats are available, here is a short list of boat types:

  • All-Purpose Fishing Boats
  • Aluminum Fishing Boats
  • Bass Boats
  • Bay or Flats Boats
  • Bowriders
  • Cabin Cruisers
  • Center Consoles
  • Cuddy Cabins
  • Deck Boats
  • Dinghies
  • Fish & Ski
  • High Performance Boats
  • Inboard Ski / Wakeboard Boats
  • Inflatables
  • Jet Boats
  • Motor Yacht/Cruisers
  • Multi-Hull Power Boats
  • Personal Watercrafts
  • Pontoon Boats
  • Sailboats
  • Sportfishing Boats
  • Trawlers
  • Walkarounds

Three Main Categories

While the short list alone can be overwhelming, you can boil it down into three primary groups: cruising boats, fishing boats, and boats for watersports.

An excellent article in Nationwide.com entitled “What Type of Recreational Boat is Right for You?”  describes the different boats:

  • “Cruising: Geared to those looking to spend time relaxing or entertaining on the water. Some models offer room and features sufficient for a day cruise; others feature cabins and amenities for an overnight stay.
  • Fishing: Open cockpits in the rear – or stern – allow for more front – or bow – deck space to make it easier to fish. While smaller vessels don’t have much room for seating, larger craft may include cabins for overnight trips.
  • Watersports: Specifically designed to accommodate water skiers and wake boarders, these boats have towing capabilities and offer a faster, more thrilling ride.”

What to Do Onboard

Fishing

This is the first thing that comes to mind when thinking about an activity related to boating. But how do you teach your kids to take an interest in fishing?

An article in discoverboating.com on teaching children how to enjoy boating offers the following advice:

“To let kids learn to love water through fishing, help them discover it on their own terms. The freedom to go freestyle lets them satisfy their own curiosity in their own way. Limit the options by circumstance, not rules. Worried about them falling in? Give them a cool new life jacket to wear. Then don’t worry about it. Spice up the experience with inexpensive kids’ rods which come complete with a tackle pack of hook, line, sinkers and bobbers.”

Watersports

Depending on the type of boat you get, there are a wide range of options for watersports. With a powerboat, for example, you can try waterskiing while a sailboat is a fun way to simply catch the wind and race across the waters. You can use the boat to visit nearby islands or you can just anchor it and go snorkeling or scuba diving.

Safety

Safety is an important consideration. Although your children will be wearing life jackets, it’s a good idea that they also learn to swim before you go boating.

Falling into the water is not the only risk when boating, the too much sun-exposure can be as well. Besides sunglasses, broad brimmed hats, and loose clothing, you should get sunscreen. SPF 15 works well, but if you don’t think it’s enough try SPF 30 or 70.

Family Boating Trips

Boating is not an idle sport and requires lots of hands-on skills. Everyone needs to participate and work as a team. Afterward, when all the necessary chores have been done, a family can sit back, drink in the majesty of sea and sky, and reflect, in a peaceful way, on some of the deeper issues of life as a family.

Simple ways to improve the security of your home

Your home is where you keep a great deal of your worldly possessions, not forgetting that this is the place where your family lives. It is crucial to protect the things most important to you, and it may not be as difficult or expensive as you may think.

Security blinds are something that are effective but not often thought of by homeowners. These blinds are useful because they can let natural light in during the day while making the home look occupied at night, helping to ward off calculating eyes.

Upgrading your locks is one of the obvious ways to upgrade the security in your home. Installing Grade 1 locks are a sure way to protect the main entry points of your home. However, it is not uncommon for some homeowners to neglect their garage door because it may rarely be used by the household. However, it is one of the breaking-in points most used by burglars to gain access to your belongings as it often leads straight into the home and contains valuables. A garage door repair should be moved to the top of your priority list.

Some homeowners like to leave certain lights on throughout the evening to give the appearance that someone is home; however, an even more effective way of keeping up the pretense is by installing timers on TVs, radios, and lights to go on and off randomly. Also, having a “Beware of the dog” sign, even if you don’t own a dog, can be a great way to warn off prying eyes. The possibility of a big, intimidating dog or even a small dog that will bark a lot and alert neighbors to a break-in is enough to deter the most opportunistic criminal.

One of the most-used ways to improve security is motion sensors. These can scare off intruders because they can alert you to their presence, and can also alert neighbors who may see the light and call you, or if they are really worried they could call the police, especially if you have gone away on vacation. This is especially effective within a neighborhood watch area, where you and your neighbors look out for each other while working with police to bring down the crime rate.

Another good way is to rearrange your yard so that burglars don’t have a place to conceal themselves while they are breaking and entering, such as large shrubs or trees. However, you can use landscaping in your yard so that it can act as a defense. Thorny bushes are great at making intruders think twice about trying to get into your house via the windows. Not only that but they can also look beautiful in any climate – why not choose rose bushes or a cactus rockery?

There really is no excuse if you can’t afford a home security system – there are many cheap and easy ways to improve the security of your home, so start planning today.

 

Why it is important to get the right lawyer when moving house

It may be incredibly tempting to avoid hiring a real estate lawyer when moving or buying a house, especially if it is the first time that you have been involved in the process. However, even if that is the case, it is better to be safe than sorry when it comes to such a huge project to undertake on your own, with such big risks and potential difficulty if it goes wrong.

Some of the reasons why it is sensible to hire an attorney revolve around the fact that you could be sued after the process has taken place due to failure to provide necessary information on the property to the other party, not clearing the title to the property, or violating a corporate charter. This can result in the other party, and potentially the people with whom they are in partnership, suing you. By seeking legal counsel, it makes this less likely as it will be your attorney’s job to make sure that all of the disclosures are taken care of properly.

There are also some legal documents, such as the deed, that need to be filed properly at either state or county level. If this is not done correctly, it could result in various income tax or estate taxes to be imposed on the buyer or seller. Building permits may be a problem as well because if they have been filed on wetlands, then fines may be sustained and structures may have to be rebuilt. Also, if it is a commercial property that is being bought or sold, it means that there are other regulations that must be taken into consideration. It is vital that the new business receives its taxpayer identification number or it may be forced to close down until the problem has been sorted.

The laws regarding buying a home may be different from state to state, so it is even more beneficial to hire a lawyer if your purchase is in another state. For example, in New Jersey, the law states that the buyer and seller have three days to review a real estate contract before it becomes legally binding. Your attorney will make sure that you are aware of this and that any mistakes or amendments that need to be rectified are done so before you sign the contract.

Getting the right lawyer is clearly an important first step for you when buying a property, whether it’s commercial or residential. It is far better than finding yourself in trouble and having to seek out legal advice rather than having that advice from the start. Having a real estate lawyer may cost more, but in the long run, it may save you money because it decreases the chance of mistakes being made. Alongside saving you money, having a lawyer is also a time saver. If you are working on a schedule, a lawyer can help it run more smoothly and prevent the drawn-out processes that can occur.

 

How to Have a Mutually Agreed Upon Divorce

Divorce is one of those life events that often ends in long-term sadness; no matter what, there will be suffering and loss to contend with. Before divorcing it’s important to take stock of the marriage, as well as communicate with your spouse if you can. A mutually agreed upon divorce will mean less arguments and less legal preparation. Moreover, it’s important to settle the custody issues regarding children and pets before entering the courtroom. By communicating about the following aspects of divorce, you may save yourself from depression or anger down the road.

According to John N. Kitta & Associates, a family lawyer in San Jose, divorce involves the following legal variables:

  • Financial issues
  • Property division challenges
  • And, conflicts about child support and alimony

Property and Debt Settlements 

During the marriage, the couple may have acquired some valuable assets. Or, they may have incurred a great deal of debt. Or, both. In order to settle these financial matters, it’s helpful to have reached an agreement on how to divide property and debt before entering a courtroom.

Regardless whose name the property or debt is in, both parties have responsibility if it’s is considered communal. Some examples of communal property and debt are: savings accounts, motor vehicles, recreational vehicles, stocks and funds, hidden assets, business assets, retirement benefits (IRA, etc.), home ownership, and many others.

Parenting Settlements

If you have children, they are the most important part of your divorce, but you already know that. Each parent will want time with the children, but if both parents want to be custodial parent there’s an issue. Only one parent can be the custodial parent, but hopefully you’ll be able to come to a mutual agreement on this issue. In many cases the mother is the custodial parent, unless physical or emotional abuse or drug/alcohol abuse can be proven.

If you must prove a case in order to win sole custody, it’s essential that you fully interpret your state’s custody law. In this case, you need a good family lawyer. You’ll also need evidence that the other parent isn’t safe to be around the child.

If things are amicable, you’ll need to come up with an agreed upon schedule for visitation for the non-custodial parent. This includes holiday plans, birthdays, and other important dates. You’ll also need to discuss child support, insurance, and emergency plans.

An Attorney is Useful Even in the Mutually Agreed Upon Divorce

Don’t make the mistake of representing yourself. A trustworthy attorney can inform you about procedures, as well as help you make decisions that are best for your family. Remember, your emotions are running high, and could cause you to make a determination that’s not in your best interest.

Your attorney will consult with you about your options, as well as draft your divorce papers. It’s his job to get your agreements in front of a judge, and have them approved in an efficient manner. Plus, who else can bring forth motions that oppose the side in the cases of disputes?

Divorces aren’t elegant; nor, do they result in immediate satisfaction. It takes time to heal from a divorce, but that healing time is greatly extended when the divorce is difficult. Although not all spouses will be agreeable, if you can talk to yours about the things that matter. See if you can’t work it out before heading into the courtroom. This is going to help achieve a fair and healthy divorce. And, don’t forget to bring your attorney.

 

Advice to Rebuilding a Relationship with Your Spouse After Recovery

The very fact that your spouse opted to receive treatment for their addiction is something to be proud of. Be that as it may, it is important for you to understand that after rehab and recovery, there is still a lot that needs to happen in order for your loved one to stay sober and life a more productive life. Seeing as how you and your spouse live under one roof, learning how to cope and rebuild your strained marriage will be imperative to the recovery process.
The Prescott House, a rehab facility for men, points out that one of the most common reasons that recovering addicts relapse is due to unresolved relationship issues early on during the recovery process. As such, to help your spouse get back to some sense of normalcy, it will be important for you to try and be a supportive partner. Here are some suggestions on how to begin mending the fences that were ruined by addiction in your household:

Understand That These Things Take Time

Though mending the fences is recommended for helping a spouse who is recovering from addiction, it does not have to be instantaneous. There was a lot that went on during the time that they were suffering from addiction and it may take time to resolve all the feelings involved in that. Though you will start to make leaps and strides towards the success of your relationship, it is important to prepare for setbacks and bumps in the road.

Set Goals

As a recovering addict learns to adapt to new ways of life setting goals and having routines will be a pivotal part in their ability to live a happy and sober life. Therefore, when it comes to repairing the relationship you guys have, you want to sit down as a couple and set up goals and how you’re going to accomplish them. If the issue before the addiction was finances, you might come up with a way to get the bills under control so that it is not a stress trigger. If the issue was infidelity, you might work at finding ways to “spice up” the marriage and communicate more effectively to prevent the problem going forward.

Don’t Get Pulled In

One mistake that can be made once your spouse comes home from recovery is assuming that they’re completely “healed”. Though they may have received treatment for the last 90 days, a lot of their character flaws and ways of thinking are still in them. You may find in the early stages that they’re a bit more impatient and moody at times as they learn to utilize the methods they learned in rehab. As their spouse it is important not to get pulled into their emotional roller coaster. Empathizing with them is fine but don’t feel the need to walk around on eggshells or keep your emotions bottled in for fear that they will react. You have to continue helping them to grow by carrying on as normally as possible.

Don’t Forget to Take Care of Yourself

As a supportive spouse, you want nothing more than to be able to take care of your loved one’s every need. However, in the process, it is important to not get so wrapped up in caring for and supporting them that you forget to take care of yourself. The only way you’re going to be able to remain strong enough to get through this transition and healing period is to be physically and mentally prepared. Getting a good night’s sleep, exercising, eating the right foods, and even the possibility of seeing a therapist for yourself are all great solutions to caring for yourself throughout this process.

There is no denying the fact that rebuilding a relationship with a spouse who was once suffering from addiction can be a roller coaster of events. However, by taking it one day at a time, setting goals, preparing for setbacks, and staying true to yourself, you can ultimately help to repair the damage to your marriage so that you can get back to your “new normal” way of living. The road certainly won’t be easy, but with a plan in place such as the one described above, you will find that it is a lot easier to get through each day learning to love your spouse all over again.