What my neighbors must think…..

I am a very loud talker. I always have been…. actually, most of my family is very loud. My children are no exception.

This would not be a problem if we didn’t live in an apartment. What makes it a little worse is that the very nice couple who live upstairs from us are newlyweds with no kids yet. That being said, I constantly wonder what they must think when they hear my kids screaming about everything!

Violet is by far the biggest offender. You would think we beat her on a daily basis the way she is always yelling. I swear she has never ever been spanked, not even so much as a light tap. However, if she is asked to oh say, go play with the gazillion toys that she has in her bedroom while I (clean the bathroom, put the baby to bed, make lunch, etc…) she  screams like you are killing her. Apparently, being by herself is complete and total torture – that is unless it was her idea, then she will play barbies for a good hour or so in there by herself.

And if she hurts herself it’s all over. They honestly must think that we are rotten down here with the way she carries on. Now I am very sympathetic and concerned when she is genuinely hurt, but she is a VERY dramatic girl, and can be totally fine (after she say stubbed her toe) but if she knows that I saw it, or I ask if she is OK, she launches into a 20 minute rendition of how much it hurts – fake crying and all.

Time-out is a completely different ball game. Time-outs in our house consist of a trip to your room to think about why a.) you are being put into time-out and b.) to give you a chance to calm down after a temper tantrum or argument. Now, Violet is not so good at quickly completing a time-out. Once again, the thought of sitting by herself is too much for her, and she usually freaks out more (read- gets A LOT louder). It usually ends with me telling her that her time-out is over and she can come out as soon as she stops screaming and yelling to which she responds, at the top of her lungs “I’M DONE SCREAMING AND YELLING!!!!” As much as I try to explain to her that yelling to me that she is done yelling defeats the purpose, she just doesn’t get it yet. She just really wants to make sure that I can hear her tell me that she is done screaming and yelling.

I know that her loudness is not intentional; she cant help it, she is just naturally loud – it runs in the family!

Ian is not much better. He will scream as loud as he can, as long as he can just because he loves the sound of his own voice. Half the time, he hears Violet yelling and decides that he needs to put his “two cents” in the conversation and lets out a big howl of his own. I can only imagine what it must sound like to people with no children.

I have to admit, that Jay and I also contribute to the problem. We are a family of yellers. Daily, we yell conversations from one room to the other.
“Mom can I have a drink”
“What? I can’t hear you!”
“Can I have a drink?!”
“What? You have to come here, I can’t hear you!”
(VERY loud on the way to where ever I am) “MOM! CAN I HAVE A DRINK!?!”
“Oh sure Violet, you didn’t have to yell.”

Thankfully, our neighbors travel a lot.  I wonder if we have anything to do with that…..

Baby Sign Language

Violet loved sign language as a baby.

“Do you want a ba-ba now, Violet?” “Are you all done or do you want more?” “What do you want to eat?”
Her answers – “yes” “no” “more” “all done” “cheese” “grapes” “eat”…. all answered and asked with sign language (and speaking on my part) and all when she was about 11 months old.

I started signing with Violet right around the time that she started eating solid food (4-6 months) and she picked it up really fast. She loved being able to talk to us when she didn’t know how to say the words. It was also a blessing when she finally did start talking because any word she didn’t know how to say she could sign. It saved a lot of frustrating moments throughout the day.

Ian, on the other hand, seems to have NO interest what-so-ever in learning how to sign. I have been trying to get him to used to signing at meal times and when I am talking to him during the day. But for the most part he just looks at me like he could care less. I sign “more” to him while eating and the look that I get back is “yea, I want more, now give it to me!”

I was hoping to put him in a signing class, (we took a wonderful one when Violet was little) but I am having trouble finding one in my area. 🙁

However, I am VERY excited because Violet’s sign teacher has a book that was just published and is available for pre-order thru Amazon.com. It’s called “Once Upon a Sign: Using American Sign Language to Engage, Entertain, and Teach All Children” by Kimberly Taylor-Deliva
I am hoping that with the use of this book (which I have pre-ordered! I can’t wait!!) and the book I purchased during Violet’s class ( “Pick Me Up! Fun Songs for Learning Signs” by Sign2Me ) that I will be able to successfully teach Ian sign language on my own!

Hopefully I can get Violet to help!!!


Welcome to my blog!

Let me give you a little background before we begin our journey together.
I am a 25 year old stay at home mother of two and I love it! It is very rewarding to me to be able to stay home with my children and teach and nurture them. That being said, it is also very challenging and at times I do wish that I had a regular 9-5 and I was talking to someone my own age and not arguing with my 3 year old over which Scooby-Doo episode she wants watch instead of the one that I put on. In addition to my children (Violet, 3 and Ian, 8 months) we have two cats (Romeo and Otis) that are tons of fun! They are very mischievous indoor cats that love to play and wrestle with each other and with Violet. My boyfriend (Jay) refers to me as “the crazy cat lady” due to the fact that both cats follow me around everywhere and will come running as soon as I call out “boys!”.
I have decided to keep this blog for a few reasons. One – I want to have a record of my children growing up that I will be able to share with them when they are older. Two – it is not easy parenting a 3 year old and an 8 month old! I want to be able to share some of my struggles and achievement, and maybe I can help someone out along the way. That being said, I will mostly be talking about my life with my kids, with a few extras along the way 🙂
I hope to learn and grow and laugh throughout the process of writing this! And I hope that you enjoy it as much as I do!!